Giving Marriages Hope
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, giving himself up for it”
– Ephesians 5:25
All marriages have conflict from time to time. Sometimes the conflicts can turn a relationship into negative cycles that are difficult to break.
I have received training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) with a goal to help couples grow closer by helping them understand their fight cycle—the emotions and wounds that keep them stuck and disconnected. I will help you and your partner make sense of the way you argue, unravel and foster a new way of relating, heal hurts and create a safe haven.
As a Christian, I believe that we were created for having relationship with God and with others. This is why I believe EFCT works so well with couples in distress. Integrating Christian principles with the EFT model is a great fit.
Relationship Counseling Goals
The goals of EFCT include helping each partner become more aware of the emotions driving the negative cycle. Never is EFT about identifying one partner or spouse as “the problem.” Instead, the negative cycle of conflict is the problem to be addressed and changed.
I add the goal of creating a strong friendship foundation, tackles gridlocked and perpetual conflict with ease and humor, and a shared meaning system that inspires the best in oneself.
Learning From Disagreements & Arguments
I help couples process an argument with the Aftermath of a Disagreement form and help them learn how to make their dialogues just a little bit better than the last time. At the same time, I look for the anatomy of the fight.
Marriage Repair Tools
EFTC provides the tools to repair a broken bank account, to take couples gently through the process of first acknowledging and then healing attachment injuries, and restoring the bond that once existed.
Develop More Loving Interactions
The ultimate objective of my marriage counseling program is for both partners to learn to better manage their emotions and develop more loving interactions. More important is for both to learn how to speak in kinder and more vulnerable ways. As a result couples learn to create stronger emotional attachments. Then they are in a much better place to solve old problems and face future challenges in a mutually supportive way.
Call me today to setup an initial marriage counseling session. I can hear first hand the struggles you and your spouse are experiencing and then provide a road map of couples therapy to turn your relationship into the happier and more connection direction.